The time draws near

We’re in the home stretch leading up to my surgery now. Much of the time, it still feels not quite real. I’m still mostly asymptomatic, and yet I’m about to let some guy open my skull with a drill and cutting tool (“like they do a jack-o-lantern” as my friend puts it) and get to work cutting the bad stuff out – or at least as much as is possible without doing too much other damage. And yet just three days ago I ran 13.1 miles. Is this really about to happen?

ImageJulie has put a sign on our bedroom door. It’s a line from one of her favorite country songs and she uses it to count up our time together since that initial seizure. It makes me happy to see it and is one of many ways that people have shown their feelings for me. I especially like that she’s left room for so many tick marks. I truly have been so blessed along the way by your warmth and compassion. I’ve received dozens of cards and way too many people to count telling me that they’re praying for me. I feel them and thank you. Whether it was driving me to/from work or arranging a surprise Skyline Chili lunch that included current and former colleagues at work, my friends and family have made me the beneficiary of more love and kindness than anyone really deserves.

I particularly want to call attention to those who have provided support and love to my family. This whole thing is more difficult on them than it is on me – not because I am special or unique. I believe this is true all of the time. The family is burdened – emotionally, physically, logistically – just as much, if not more, than me. And yet it’s me who gets the lion’s share of the direct support. So, for those of you who have expressed kindness and said a prayer for them, know that I am even more grateful for that as I am for what you’ve done directly for me.

The 13.1 mile run I referred to earlier was the Cap City Classic here in Columbus. It was the culmination of a “Run for God” ministry that our church participates in. As you might expect, it’s a combined physical and spiritual journey that helps you get closer to God and I highly recommend it (particularly if the class is led by my friend Ben Reed). At the start of the class, we were asked to pick a word to focus on for the duration of the class. My word was “humility”. It’s been unreal how strong a role that word would come to play in my life since January.

It began with a run where I spent time thinking of how runners demonstrate humility in celebrating personal records, even for folks in the back of the pack. Runners are also forced to make themselves aware of their own limits lest they risk injury.  These initial thoughts carried through to conversations I had with colleagues around town who had agreed to let me talk to them about what separated good consultants from poor ones. The message was consistent. The best consultants were those who showed up ready to learn from their clients before arrogantly suggesting solutions.

I gave a talk on humility at the Columbus Ruby Brigade. It wasn’t really good and I felt humbled by my lack of preparation. And then a few days after that, Jim Weirich passed away. Jim was one of the people in my life who best demonstrated what true humility was. I was forced to reassess my understanding of the word. The joy, openness and approachability Jim showed to everyone dramatically changed how I came to understand it.

And now I find myself in a situation where my understanding shifts yet again. Yes, humility is not thinking too highly of oneself. And yes it’s making everyone you come into contact with feel special. But it’s also about making yourself vulnerable and recognizing your dependence on the help and service of God and others.

I am the first born son of a first born son – for seven generations. My mom told me that more times than I could possibly count as I grew. Whether it was her intention or not, the message in my mind was clear. Be proud of who you are and be an independent and responsible person. Up to a point, it’s hard to find fault with that. It’s very much made me into the kind of person I am. But it’s not really a message of humility. To be truly humble requires you to embrace your dependence on others.

By far, the biggest adjustment for me in the last 6+ weeks has been this forced dependence. It’s frequently uncomfortable and not very natural to me. But it has been a gift. I never would have considered a brain tumor a blessing. But the things I’ve learned by going through this process have helped me to understand that I’m a better person, and closer to what God wants of me, when I attempt to be truly humble, in all subtleties of the word. I’m not sure it’s possible to be completely successful, but I know I have to keep trying.

And so it is that I now think about what’s about to happen in the coming days and weeks. I can’t help but again reflect on the love I’ve received and the wisdom I’ve gained. And I will very soon be stripped bare of any semblance of independence – at least for awhile. Humility is coming whether I want it or not.

The prayers you all say for me and my family warm my heart. My prayers are for discernment of God’s purpose in my life and for peace of mind, love, and support for my family and friends.

God bless you all and thanks again for everything you’ve done up to now and everything you continue to do.

Meeting with the neurosurgeon


I got to meet with Dr. Robert Gewirtz this morning to plot next steps. His recommendation mirrors the same feeling that Julie and I have had since the start – let’s get this thing out of there. And so I’m going to be heading in for a full resection in a few weeks. Here are a few things that people have asked about:

What are the possible drawbacks? You know when you want to tell someone that something isn’t difficult you say “it ain’t brain surgery”. This is apparently difficult. Fortunately, the surgeon I have is skilled. Still, he was clear in making sure we understood that there are risks – some of which are very bad indeed. But the most likely outcome at this point is that I’ll lose some motion and sensory capacity in my right leg. The tumor is right on the part of the motor/sensory strip that controls that. So, I’ll probably have physical therapy to go through, could require some form of assistance (e.g. cane, boot, brace) to help me walk, and am likely to lose some amount of sensation in the leg.

Am I going to be on chemo/radiation? What is my life expectancy? What type of tumor is this? These and bunches of other questions are really not knowable at this point. Once they get the tumor out, they’ll be able to do pathology on it to better understand what’s going on, how truly active it is, and what the appropriate long term treatment and prognosis is. He still feels comfortable predicting that it’s a low-grade glioma, but more details about the severity of it beyond that still remain to be seen. So, stay tuned.

How long am I going to be in the hospital and how long am I out of work? At least 2 days in the hospital, but the actual length depends on how I do in recovery. I’m likely going to be out of work for 4-6 weeks, but that too is only a rough estimate at this point. I fully expect to put a serious dent in my Netflix queue, but I know I’ll be itching to get back as soon as possible.

Will I be awake for the surgery? No. He’s participated in procedures where this was the case, but he says they have better methods for this now.

I’m experiencing occasional instances of my right leg going numb for 15-90 seconds. Maybe two days per week, 1-2 times per day. Are those seizures? Probably – though apparently only mild ones. Good to know.

I feel amazingly fortunate for all the love and support you all have sent my way. It’s hard to think you’d count yourself lucky after learning that you have a brain tumor, but I have been truly blessed the last two weeks. None of us knows ahead of time the path our lives will travel, the ways in which God will call on us to bear witness and support us when the struggle grows difficult. But I most certainly am gaining an appreciation for that now. That support has come through all of you. Even if you weren’t aware of it, those of you who have been sympathetic, sent a card, or offered me a ride to/from work have been the hands and feet of God. Thank you all.


I have a brain tumor – now what?

Several folks have asked for an update on my health. Some of this will be repetitive to some of you, but I wanted to document the whole story anyway.

Last Saturday evening, Matthew was in New York on a high school band trip. Julie and Cassady had just left the day before on a confirmation trip and were in Atlanta on their way to St. Simons Island. I was working at home with a friend (Ben Reed) on two iMovie projects (1, 2) when all of a sudden my right leg started to feel some strange combination of numb and clumsy. I knew pretty much right away that this wasn’t a case of my foot being asleep so I had my friend take me to a local trauma center. At the trauma center, they gave me a CAT scan and an Xray. The CAT scan showed something that might have either been a stroke or a tumor so I was transferred in an ambulance (full speed, lights and sirens on) to Riverside Hospital about 10 miles away.

They took me into an exam room there and I quickly saw my right leg starting to convulse. Within 30 seconds, I was having a full-on seizure that apparently lasted for 4 minutes. I only remember a bit of it but it was terrible – the most frightening thing you can imagine. While I was under, they apparently did another CAT scan and confirmed that it didn’t appear to be bleeding (i.e. what you could see wasn’t growing) and thus not a stroke.
I awoke awhile later in a room in the brain and stroke center of the hospital. After awhile, they wheeled me down for a MRI which has much higher image fidelity, though you have to lay very still in it and it’s extremely confined. That lasted an hour and I was really glad when it was over. Not moving for an hour is hard.Image
What the neuro-surgeon told me was that he’s 99% sure that what we see on the MRI is a low-grade tumor on the parietal lobe of the left side of my brain (you are looking up through my chin in that photo). Some of you know that my mom died of a much more aggressive brain tumor about 11 years ago. This appears to be more like a stage 1 or probably stage 2 glioma than a stage 4 (the latter of which has a life expectancy of 6-11 months). The neuro-surgeon said that people with a stage 1 can live 20-30 years still – some with little or no treatment. My own reading and research (pro tip – googling around for glioma is a depressing undertaking) indicates that he was probably being hopeful and optimistic at a time when I needed it, but who knows. There are a few good things in the MRI report including the fact that they described the tumor as “sharply circumscribed” (i.e. it has well defined edges) and its only 2.6cm in the largest dimension. Julie said she saw online that 6cm is a point where the concern level goes up dramatically. Also, the fact that the tumor hasn’t crossed the midline of the brain is good.
In the hospital, the neuro-surgeon said the big picture is that we have three options:
1. Do nothing and watch it
2. Have a biopsy done to confirm what it is and decide on next steps at that time
3. Go in for a full removal of the tumor
Given that even a biopsy in this case involves drilling a hole in my skull, it seems pointless to do that and not just remove the tumor – especially with the risk that the biopsy needle could transport bad cells into a new region. But we’re still doing research. We are meeting with the neuro-surgeon again on April 7 and have a whole host of questions, including what are pessimistic, realistic, and optimistic outlooks for people like me, how long does he think I’ll be out of work, how does he know what to remove, and when would we do this etc. Cassady’s confirmation is Sunday April 27, so I’m hoping that the procedure itself can be delayed until after that. But we’ll let the doctor be our guide.
Right now, I feel mostly normal. My right leg, which was still clumsy in the days after my hospital stay, is occasionally awkward. But physically, I don’t feel much different than I did a week ago prior to running nine miles on Saturday morning (I had been training for the Cap City Half Marathon as part of a Run For God program at our church).
In the next couple of weeks, we’ll be reaching out for help in a couple areas. In particular, because I’m not able to drive, getting to/from work is going to be a challenge.
I have already been the subject of more love and affection than anyone deserves. I’m very thankful to my buddy Ben who took me to the hospital and stayed long into the night, my sister-in-law Jill who works at the nearby James Cancer Hospital and spent the night and morning with me, my beautiful bride Julie who hopped off the confirmation trip and flew home to be with me, and my sister who flew in from California to spend the week with us.
And of course the folks at work, the folks at church, the people in Scouts, and several friends on twitter and facebook have all been so very loving and supportive. Please know that I treasure and value you all very much. You all mean the world to me. When I went up to bed last night, I found post-it notes all over our room from our daughter. It was really emblematic of what all of you have been doing for me and us. Know that it is appreciated. Right now, I have to admit that I feel fortunate. Having a brain tumor is not something I’d wish on anyone, but the entire experience has helped me gain a mountain of perspective and realize just how much each of us is loved. My one piece of advice to each of you is to try and appreciate that today. I’m now seeing demonstrations of it well beyond what I deserve. The love I’m feeling – from friends, from family, from God – is overwhelming. And it’s available to us all. Thank you all for everything you do.

Geography Bee – or Are You Smarter Than an Eighth Grader?

Today was the National Geographic State Geography Bee, and for the third year in a row, Matthew got to go. Even getting to the state bee itself is quite an accomplishment as it means you’ve won the competition at your middle school, then taken the test that all school winners take, and are selected as one of the top 100 kids in the state. Matthew has always been a huge fan of geography, and it’s been extremely gratifying to see him have success in this.

The first part of the state competition is the preliminaries where each contestant is asked 8 questions. The top 10 kids move on to the finals with a tie-breaker round used if necessary to get to the 10. This year, Matthew was one of 12 kids who got all eight of their preliminary round questions correct, so he went into the tie-breaker round. Although this was the second year in a row where it had happened, my understanding is that it’s more common that the tie breaker round consists of kids who got 7 of 8, with fewer than 10 kids typically getting all 8 right.

Matthew survived the tie-breaker round, getting both questions correct and moved on to the finals just as he had last year. Once there, his goal was just to improve on his position of last year (tied for fifth), and he did just that – this year tying for fourth in the state. Needless to say, we’re very proud of him.

The final round moved fast enough that I wasn’t able to get down all of Matthew’s questions, but I did manage to write down the ones he faced in the preliminaries and tie breaker round. So, how many would you have gotten right?

Preliminary round
1. Death Valley is located on border between California and which other state – Nevada or Illinois?

2. Which city is more populous – Indianapolis or Chicago?

3. Which country experiences colder winters – Cambodia or Mongolia.

4. Which island country is not in the Pacific – Samoa, Vanuatu, or Mauritius?

5. In October 2012, archeologists announced the discovery of Viking artifacts such as yarn and wet stones on Baffin Island in what North American country?

6. The syncretic religion of Santeria, also known as Regla de Ocha developed in this, the largest of the countries in the Greater Antilles. Name it.

7. From the 16th to the 18th century, Poland was united with what present day country whose capital city is Vilnius?

8. This capital city is the legislative capital and seat of parliament for South Africa and is overlooks the Table Bay. Name it.

And here are the tie breaker questions:

1. The Seikan Tunnel connects Hokkaido and Honshu in what island country?

2. Name the southernmost country in the Balkan Peninsula

geobee 1

geobee 2

Our Kids are Incomparable

As a parent, you quickly learn that your kids are going to surprise you more often than you think. You just hope that there are more positive surprises than negative ones. We had a positive one recently that I thought I’d share.

Over the last couple of years, our son and daughter have become fans of several podcasts. In particular, they really love The Incomparable and on the 5by5 podcast network and the MacWorld podcast – especially the Pundit Showdown episodes which they find hilarious. I can’t tell you how many times they’ve listened to the Star Wars episodes of the former, but they practically have them memorized.

About a week ago, my wife and I went out to dinner. When we got home, the kids told us they had recorded their own podcast episode. It’s in the style of The Incomparable where they completely dissect The Princess Bride. Nobody but their parents will likely listen to the whole thing, but it just tickled me to see how they imitated something they love.

Listen to The Princess Bride episode on an unnamed podcast.

Prayer of Confession

Sometimes, you see a prayer that just speaks to how you’re feeling. At church today, this one seemed to have been written with me in mind:

You asked for my hands, that you might use them for your purpose.
I gave them for a moment, but withdrew them, for the work was hard.
You asked for my mouth to speak against injustice.
I gave you a whisper that I might not be accused.
You asked for my eyes to see the pain of poverty.
I closed them, for I did not want to see.
You asked for my life, that you might work through me.
I gave a small part that I might not get too involved.
Lord, forgive my calculated efforts to serve you-
only when it is convenient for me to do so,
only when in those places where it is safe to do so,
and only with those who make it easy to do so.
Father, forgive me, renew me, send me out, as a usable instrument,
That I might take seriously the meaning of your cross.

Peanut Butter Fritos

My lovely wife Julie discovered this recipe a few years ago and it’s been a family (and friend) favorite ever since. Based just on the title, it’s hard to believe that these could taste as good as they do. But taste good they most certainly do. And they’re very easy to make.


* 1 Family sized bag of Frito’s Scoops
* 1/2 cup light corn syrup
* 1/2 cup sugar (or Splenda)
* 1/2 cup creamy peanut butter (Jif is our favorite)

1. Lay Fritos out on wax paper bowl side up
2. Combine corn syrup and sugar in a pan and bring to a boil.
3. As soon as the boiling begins, remove from heat and stir in peanut butter
4. Drizzle on top of Fritos using a pasta utensil or slotted spoon

We frequently double the above recipe if we’re sharing beyond the family, but the above would serve 8-10 people.

Where this madness is headed

The news of the week (Texas A&M leaving the Big 12 for the SEC) seems to have everyone convinced that we’re just a short time away from having 4 super conferences of 16 teams each. And I fear that the conventional wisdom is right on this one. I fear it because it is madness.

Consider a hypothetical 16 team Big Ten that adds Missouri, Pittsburgh, Texas, and Rutgers. The league would be split into two 8 team divisions with the conference winner determined by a championship game. So far, so good. But think about the schedule for a bit – especially if Ohio State and Michigan are kept in separate divisions (itself a form a madness, but that’s another post). Every year, Ohio State would almost certainly play the other 7 teams in it’s division plus maintain the guaranteed matchup with Michigan. That’s 8 games from your 12 game schedule.

What do you do with the other 4 games? Today, everyone plays 4 non-conference games per year. But if that holds, or even if it’s reduced to a mere 3 non-conference games, then there will be teams in Ohio State’s conference that it never plays or only plays home-and-home against once every decade and a half or so (conference schedules are usually set 2 years at a time where year 2 flips the home/away designation of year 1). What’s the point of having Michigan State and Ohio State in the same conference if they almost never play each other? **UPDATE – it occurs to me that if you have 3 non-conference games per year, and given OSU’s habit of scheduling in-state schools, you might see Ohio State playing Akron more frequently than it does a conference opponent**

We could solve this particular problem by having even more conference games, but that too is a problem on two fronts. First, it would be an economic hit to the powerful schools like Ohio State that have gotten used to having at least 7 home games per year. Second, it would all but eliminate the marquee non-conference match ups that are such a perfect balance to the regional conference action. Say goodbye to Ohio State taking on Texas, Miami, USC, and the like. And that would be a shame.

The only option left is to increase the number of games in the schedule. If you had 13 or 14 games per year, you’d still be able to have a good blend of conference and non-conference action. But would the university presidents ever agree to this? The cynic in me says they might, but that would go against most of what they’ve said about protecting the integrity of the student athlete.

I’m not sure I see a way out of this. I’m hoping the Big Ten is smart enough to stay at its current 12 teams. Even that feels a bit large to me, but I vastly prefer it to the madness that would be a 16 team league.

Is government getting bigger?

The talk of the day seems to be about the latest jobs report from the Government Bureau of Labor Statistics that shows a worrying employment situation in the US. In short, though total employment grew by 18000 jobs, that’s nowhere near enough to keep up with population growth and the net result was a rise in overall unemployment. The political classes are going to spin this as is their custom. But this caught my eye:

I’d actually argue that creating jobs – at least in the short term – is almost by definition one thing that big government is good at. The Republican charge of “big government” liberalism is as old as Republicanism itself of course, but is it true in the current situation? This is an answerable question. The BLS allows you pull the stats for government employment over time. And here’s a chart from that data:
A chart of government employment since 2001
In short – government is getting smaller under Obama, not larger. At least as measured in terms of employment.

A New Chapter

Throughout the course of a life and career, everyone goes through many phases. Sometimes, the transitions can only be recognized with the benefit of hindsight – like the growing realization that the first 35 years of your life spent without the benefit of hot sauce was a missed opportunity. In other cases, you realize what’s going on as it’s happening. Such is true with me now.

For the last few years, I’ve worked full time trying to build Resort Gems into a growth site. Although that work is not completely done, the “combat operations” portion is drawing to a close for me. But, starting on August 15, I’ll be moving on and going to work for Edgecase.

I have long admired Edgecase as a company. I became aware of the company in late 2007 while still working at AOL. A small group of artisans working in Columbus on the hottest new subfield of web application development – Ruby on Rails. For the last few years, it’s been a joy to work alongside them – first in a client/vendor relationship and later as people sharing the same office (our company has sublet space from them at the coolest office building in Columbus). Now it will be my supreme pleasure to join them and work alongside a world class team a colleagues.

I have been absolutely blessed in my career to have several great jobs – all of which I have loved (with the possible exception of my newspaper route when I was 14). My time with VacationView will remain among the best professional experiences I could possibly hope for. But, for now, it’s time to move on to the next chapter.